The Best Thing To Do When Those Negative Thoughts Come In
It's really simple, but you've got to promise me (promise yourself), right now, that you'll do this the next time you start to speak negatively to yourself. Ok? Promise?
On a blank piece of paper (leaving a blank line at the top) write down all the thoughts you have in your head. Don’t hold back. Anything that comes to mind, write it down (no one else is going to see this). Write it exactly like you're talking to yourself in the mirror. I know the exact things you're thinking, I've been there plenty of times. I know you're hurt, but I need you to put your thoughts onto paper.
Here's a little example:
I can't believe you just ___ [insert what you did/didn't do here].
I'm so embarrassed I can't even stand to look at you. As punishment, for the next few days you're notallowed to ___.
Etc.
Now, here's the catch. I don't want you to look at the rest of this post until you've done step one (above).
In a perfect world, you'll never know what the rest of this post says…
Has the moment happened? Is that why you're here?
Remember, don't look past this point if you haven't already done the first step (above).
You're here because you're not feeling so great about yourself right now, and I'm so sorry you feel that way.
Although I've been there, plenty of times, I can't begin to imagine what you, yourself, are feeling right now. The pain and hurt. The feeling of betrayal, from your own body, from your own self.
…but, I'm happy you remembered to come back.
Here's your next step:
Remember that line, at the top of the page that I made you leave blank?
Well, now that you've put your thoughts to paper, I want you to write the following on that top line:
Dear ____ [insert name of someone you love dearly],
and then read it out loud, as if you were standing in front of that person now.
Let that sit.
I'm going to go now, but as you sit there, realizing the hurt in the words you just said out loud, and how you'd never, ever say that to someone you love even if they did exactly what you did, I want you to ask yourself, why? Why do you deserve that? Why can't you show yourself the same love and compassion as the ones you love the most? You certainly deserve so, so much love.
…and with that, give yourself a hug, and whisper the following words to yourself: I love you. I am here for you. I am so grateful for you. Thank you.
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Hi, I’m Azul Corajoria, an Integrative Health Coach, Personal Trainer & Yoga Instructor. I support my clients in making step-by-step changes so that they can live a healthy and balanced life. By recognizing the interdependent roles of mindset, nutrition, and movement I educate and hold my clients accountable for achieving their health goals through lifestyle and behavior adjustments with an emphasis on self-care. Together, we navigate the contradictory world of nutrition through intuitive eating, practice mindful movement, and implement small mindset and lifestyle shifts that empower them to be their best selves in the easiest way possible.
