Stop Making Excuses For Your Excuses
“If you argue for your limitations, you get to keep them.”
Are you, knowingly or unknowingly, defending the very barriers that are holding you back?
The excuses that are keeping you from achieving the things you want?
…if you are, how do you stop?
Keep reading if you want to learn how to start challenging these beliefs and limitations so you can start living the life you want. Achieving the goals you want to achieve. Free yourself from your limitations.
First, let’s get clear on what it means to “argue for your limitations.”
It can sound like:
“I’ve always been bad at this; it’s just who I am.”
“I can’t find time to exercise. My schedule is too crazy.”
“I’m just not a disciplined person. Never have been."
…or my favorite, “I'm lazy.”
Here’s the thing: every time we say things like this, we’re reinforcing a story.
We’re telling ourselves—and others—that this limitation is not just real but unchangeable.
…and it's not just you. We ALL have these thoughts (I have them quite often). They’re sneaky because they usually come wrapped in what feels like logic or even self-protection.
But the truth is, the more we argue for these limits, the more we cement them in place.
But what happens when you shift that narrative?
Because yes, you CAN change.
When was the last time you read a book or watched a movie where the protagonist stayed the same the entire time? Never changed their mind about anything. Didn't grow. Didn't change. Didn't learn. Kind of never, right? You are the main character of your OWN life.
What if, instead of defending this belief, you got curious about it?
What if you asked yourself: “Is this really true? Or is it just a habit I’ve fallen into?”
I often work with clients who come to me saying, “I’ve never been able to stick with a workout plan. It’s just not my thing.” But after digging into that belief, you know what we discover? It wasn’t that they couldn’t stick to a plan—it was that they hadn’t found one that aligned with their lifestyle and ideas of enjoyment. Or maybe they grew up hating exercise because it reminded them of PE class and getting made fun of. Or maybe it's not exercise they don't like, but rather the feeling of being uncomfortable doing something they don't feel good at.
When we can reframe our thinking from “I can’t stick with this” to “What can I try differently?”—the door opens.
You stop arguing for your limitations and start arguing for your potential instead.
So, how can YOU stop arguing for our limitations?
1) Notice the language you use.
Pay attention to the way you talk about yourself. When you hear yourself saying “I can’t” or “I’m not,” pause and ask: “Is this fact, or is it fear?”
2) Challenge the story.
Write it down. Yes, actually write down the limitation you’re clinging to. Then take 15-20 min to ask yourself the following questions:
3) Reframe with possibility.
Instead of saying, “I’m terrible at sticking to routines,” try, “I’m learning how to build routines that work for me.”
We're not ignoring your struggles.
We're recognizing that you have the power to rewrite how you respond to them.
Look, growth is uncomfortable. That’s just part of it.
But if you’re willing to challenge the narratives that aren’t serving you, the reward is freedom.
Freedom from feeling stuck. Freedom to try, to fail, and to try again. Freedom to discover that you are capable of far more than you’ve been giving yourself credit for.
And hey, even if this feels a little out of reach today, that’s okay.
Change starts with small, intentional steps.
So, let me leave you with this: The next time you catch yourself arguing for a limitation, take a deep breath and ask yourself, “What if I didn’t?”
